Lake Charles, LA
It’s been a week since I attended CyPhaCon. That event was as excellent as expected, but something happened to me on my way out of the convention on Saturday evening that I feel must be addressed. Before I continue I must say that what happened to me on that evening did not occur as a result of any actions by the convention staff or volunteers and it definitely IS NOT a reflection of the convention as a whole. In fact, CyPhaCon is very accepting of ALL flavors of people no matter what race, religion, creed, or fandom that they happen to be a part of.
So what the heck happened? I finished up my last panel for the day and closed up shop on the USS Lafitte fan table. I walked around the convention for a bit, visited with a couple of friends and then decided to hit the road. I was wearing the Star Trek tee in the featured image for this post. As I was walking out of the Lake Charles Civic Center, I passed two young girls that I would estimate to be around sixteen years of age. As they walked by, one of the young ladies said, “I don’t know if that shirt is too homo or too Trek.”
I stopped in my tracks. Did she just say what I thought she said? Too homo or too Trek? I do not know if either of the girls noticed me stopping, but neither of them stopped walking. I briefly looked over my shoulder and then thought to myself: Let it go. She’s an immature little girl. It’s not worth it to say anything. People that have known me for a long time know that I rarely speak up about anything, and I eventually talked myself out of addressing the young lady.
Still, her words bugged me. No, check that. The fact that she said her words out loud and with enough volume so that I could hear them really bugged me. I honestly couldn’t care less about her personal feelings on me, Star Trek, homosexuals, heterosexuals, or anything else. Those are her personal feelings. But what about my feelings? Why did she say what she said out loud without thinking about how I might react or be affected by her words?
I could easily say that she’s a homophobic idiot and leave it at that, but that’s not the biggest of her problems in my opinion. Her biggest problem is that she didn’t think twice about making a comment that could be deemed derogatory or the consequences of saying those words. If I were a homosexual man, how would I react to her words? Would I just blow them off and get on with my life or speak up to her and give her a piece of my mind? As a heterosexual man, should I have stopped her and given her a lesson in respecting others or just tear into her and tell her how rude she is and how her parents obviously failed her?
Well, homosexual or heterosexual, I didn’t do anything, but I am going to do something now. I’m going to say that this young lady needs to seriously take a look at how she treats others. I do not care if she is scared of or has a general dislike of homosexuals. That’s a problem she needs to look into for herself. I’m also not too concerned if she said what she said in an attempt to insult me, homosexuals, or Star Trek. She lacks respect for humans in general. That’s the thing that concerns me the most.
She’s not alone, either.
I see a lack of respect for humanity almost every day of my life. Whether it is someone who insults another person for being gay, black, Catholic, or poor, or someone simply cutting in a line or using strong language in front of a child, we as a nation and a world are LOSING respect for one another.
Yeah, this girl made a simple statement that was probably meant to hurt or provoke me, but she’s definitely not the first person to do so and she definitely won’t be the last. We need to change how we treat each other. If you see a poor person on the street, offer to buy them a meal or give them a couple of bucks. If it’s cold outside and you see a cop freezing his backside off directing traffic, offer him a cup of coffee or hot chocolate. If a gay person happens to be walking down your street, don’t cross over to the other side in fear (they won’t hurt you, I promise). Instead, give them a smile and ask them how they are doing.
Simply put, BE NICE! There is no need to insult anybody because of their race, sexual orientation, religious or political leanings or any other reason!
Oh, and to answer the young lady’s question about whether or not the shirt is too homo or too Trek. NOTHING is ever too homo or too Trek! It’s perfect just the way it is!
As always, thanks for reading. Now go respect each other.